...yet I tell the of mine own knowledge, that the ecstasy of the flesh alone is a great anticipation and ascension into a moment's thrill that is far less than its expectation.  'Tis therefore that lechers forever pursue new conquests - they are ever in search of that which can only be gained by those in love.  I cannot speak of the fullest ecstasy that is accorded true lovers, but from what I hear of it, it surpasseth mere lust as the ocean surpasseth the lake.

I yet dream of a union in which husband and wife are so firmly delighted in one another that they act in concert, and take so much pleasure in one another's company that the bondage of never doing what one wishes, but ever tempering thine own desires by another's whims, seems of little moment.

From all I have seen and heard, a wedding is not the magic charm we think it.  A priest's blessing, and an exchange of rings, will not make a wild boy instantly into a prudent husband, nor transform a flirtatious lass at once into a demure and loyal wife.  And, assuredly, a wedding will not make two folk who are unsuited to fall in Iove.

Doctrine by its nature is fallible.  When it becomes inflexible, it opens itself to mistakes.  You can't live your life by principles alone; you have to have compassion, too.  If you don't, the best principles in the world can be corrupted into inhumanity.  It's people who matter, not causes.